Wedding days should be a day for the bride and groom to celebrate their happy union in the company of their nearest and dearest.
However, a bride-to-be has a tough decision to make when it comes to her big day. A decision, she says, that now means some of her close relatives will miss the opportunity.
In a post published on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” forum, the woman explained that she is getting married in three months as part of a quiet wedding and reception and last week reached out to her parents to ask. that her younger sister, Anna, is not coming.
It is a decision that many have expressed their support for on social media.
In a post that has been updated more than 19,900 times and generated more than 2,600 comments, the woman, posted as Priyrpro, explained that Anna has “severe autism” and “while being verbal, most of her communication is ‘physical’.” ‘, such as sign language because of her social discomfort.”
The bride-to-be noted that although her sister communicates better with family, she has “poor cognitive skills” but “cannot understand boundaries” and as a result has been living with their parents since birth.
More specifically, the woman says that her sister Anna has a problem with her future husband, Michael, often trying to touch and kiss him inappropriately.
“When we were at my parents’ house, Anna would try to grab Michael’s hands, lean forward to kiss him, or would shut down really badly if she wasn’t allowed to be right next to him,” she said.
She said they had tried to talk to Anna about the matter, but unfortunately “she didn’t really understand”. As a result, she has now taken the difficult step of barring her sister from her wedding, and telling her parents that she just wants Michael to be her “partner” instead of Anna’s comforter.
“They called me selfish and asked how I expected them to agree to something like that,” she said. “They told me that Anna is disabled and may never have a wedding of her own and while I probably have Michael for the rest of our lives, she won’t have anyone and that Michael and I could be a little more understanding of the reality of her.” life.”
Since then, her parents have told her that they will not come to her wedding.
They also dismissed her criticism of Anna’s behavior, arguing that it was “normal for a woman her age” to kiss and hug someone like Michael that way, because “she doesn’t understand what her feelings mean”.
The bride-to-be suggested that they could “redirect” Anna during the groom’s wedding, but her parents rejected that idea, claiming that he should just “get over it.”
Similar suggestions that they watch the wedding via webcam or pay for someone to take care of Anna were rejected, with the bride’s parents expressing concern that if she eventually died she would “pledge” her sister to other people. whenever she could.
The woman told her parents that Anna was ultimately not her “life responsibility” and although she would “pay for her care”, she was unsure of how she would behave around her husband and any future children. At this point, she says her parents hanged her, before later texting her urging her to “do the right thing.”
Despite the difficulty the situation faced, most of the comments on the post supported the bride’s actions.
Rileygreyy commented, “You’re right, she’s incapable of leaving your fiancé alone on the one day she has to leave him alone.” xHappyAcidx asked, “Can you do a party with your sister at a later date? I understand she would be on him, but your wedding day is yours and yours alone.”
NobodyAskedShutUp added: “I can fully empathize with your dilemma. It can be a sticky topic to discuss disability, especially given the family connection, but you are not asking/acting in bad faith.” Ksarahsarah27 suggested that her parents “should address it instead of assuming that everyone should be okay with someone’s behavior related to boundaries.”
Meanwhile, GAllenhead9008 suggested they hold a “little fake wedding” at home.
“They can also just invite the people Anna feels comfortable talking to, so it’s comfortable for her and she can really enjoy it.”
News week has contacted Priyrpro for comment.
The issue of who you should and shouldn’t invite to your wedding continues to be a source of much debate on social media. Earlier this month, a groom sparked controversy after describing how he kicked every female member of his family out of his marriage after they showed up dressed in white.
Another couple, meanwhile, caused a stir among their friends and family after canceling their big wedding plans to marry at a local registry office before embarking on four honeymoons with the money they’d saved.