Members of a popular internet forum were quick to support a woman who sold her late husband’s house to a buyer other than his parents.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITEA**hole, Redditor u/Clarkal2 (aka the original poster or OP) said that she and her husband divorced a year before his death and the burden that came with it. after she was appointed administrator of his estate.
titled “[Am I the a**hole] for selling my late husband’s house from under his parents?” the viral post has received nearly 15,000 votes and 1,000 comments in the past 10 hours.
The original poster wrote that her in-laws were beneficiaries of multiple life insurance policies and pension funds, saying they received a “boatload of money” while she was left to sell her former partner’s house.
Adding that she is already financially responsible for her own home, the original poster said her in-laws were adamant that they wanted to buy their late son’s home, but dragged their feet throughout the process.
“Since his death, his parents have told me they wanted to buy the house,” she wrote. “I’ve been waiting since August for them to make the purchase… I’ve been paying the mortgage on his house ever since.”
“In February I warned them that I was tired of paying for two mortgages and that I needed them to continue with the purchase,” she added.
Despite her in-laws’ desire to buy the house, the original poster said she had recently received an offer from an outside buyer, much to the chagrin of her late husband’s parents.
“Last week I was approached by a gentleman who was willing to pay good money for the house,” she wrote. “I warned [my in-laws] hoping that would help them move forward, but they scoffed and told me to just be patient and wait.”
“It’s been a whole year of waiting, with them making me pay the mortgage…while they go on vacation, make big purchases and pay off their debts with the life insurance,” she continued.
“Am I the asshole for accepting an offer from someone she’s not?” she wondered. “Is it wrong to sell their dead son’s house?”
When a person dies, one of the first actions is to appoint an administrator of their estate.
Often named in a final will, a surviving spouse, other family member, attorney or executor, the administrator of the estate acts as legal representative for the deceased party, according to the Internal Revenue Service.
Depending on certain state laws, this may mean that an estate manager is responsible for a deceased person’s debts, including unpaid mortgages.
And while there are certain protections for grieving relatives against “abusive, unfair or deceptive practices” used to collect debts, the Federal Trade Commission reports that immediately after a death, collectors can contact spouses, parents, executors and estate administrators directly. .
In the comment section of the viral post, Redditors pointed out that her in-laws had numerous opportunities to purchase their late son’s home and recommended the original poster.
In the post’s top commentary, which has received more than 20,000 votes, Redditor u/Lawn_Orderly said the original poster justified selling the house and encouraged her to request repayment for the mortgage payments she made.
†[Not the a**hole]they wrote. “They have been given more than enough time to respond and as a manager you have to close the estate.”
“Contact your attorney about getting back the sale proceeds for the mortgage payments you made after your death,” she added.
Redditor u/Petty25Betty, whose comment has received more than 4,000 votes, echoed that sentiment, saying the children of the original poster should have received the money that ended up with her in-laws.
“If they wanted the house, they would pay the mortgage,” they wrote. “You all [children] should have been his beneficiaries.
“You warned them honestly. If you want to be generous, let them know about the other offer and give them a deadline for pulling the trigger,” Redditor added u/4682458. “All communication through a lawyer.”