Internet supports woman who refused to fire personal trainer after his wife’s question

A woman went viral on Reddit after posting about an altercation between her and her private trainer’s wife after she sent him a thank you card.

Known only as a u/aita gym trainer, the Redditor got more than 12,100 votes and 1,400 comments on the post in just 18 hours.

The viral post said the woman, 43, hired a personal trainer through her gym in 2018. She explained that she was looking for someone who had a good understanding of chronic pain as she needed help managing it after 20 years.

The Redditor said her trainer, whom she gave the alias “Alex,” was able to help her “beyond expectations.” She even said that thanks to him, her doctor was able to lower the dose of her painkillers.

“So as a token of appreciation, I gave Alex an early Christmas card with a $50 gift card last week,” the post explains. “The message was simple: ‘Thank you for your help. Best wishes.'”

But she explained that while she was working out solo at the gym on Thursday, a stranger approached her claiming to be Alex’s wife.

“She accused me of being friends with Alex and demanded that I ask the gym to switch trainers,” the post explains. “I refused and she became aggressive, so I called the staff in and they removed her.”

According to, a telltale sign of an insecure partner is that they have little to no confidence and dislike interacting with other people they may find attractive.

Another sign of insecurity in a relationship is creating big fights out of small problems. For example, creating a big argument over a misunderstanding that could easily have been a civil conversation.

Alysha Jeney, a relationship counselor in Colorado, told Brides that insecurity often stems from relationship wounds or past traumas that made it harder to trust.

“You may have every confidence in the world that your partner won’t cheat on you, but still feel insecure,” Jeney told Brides.

In the Reddit post, the woman explained that when she told her friends about the situation, they called her disrespectful and told her to respect the woman’s wishes.

“While I don’t think Alex’s wife’s insecurity is my problem, I regret getting him into trouble at home. AITA?’ u/aita-gym-trainer asked in the post.

In the comments, many users supported the Redditor to stand up for itself and make the decision to keep Alex as her trainer.

“NTA. Sounds like you thought you were a great personal trainer who went above and beyond what he ever had to do,” one commented. “You’re happier in your life and you’re making progress medically. That’s great!”

Some said that if the woman ended up becoming Alex’s wife, she would have handled the situation inappropriately.

“How unhinged do you have to be to go to your partner’s workplace and harass their customers?” said one commenter.

“You gave him a gift card, not a hotel key,” said one person. “She has to check her madman at the door. NTA.’

Some users mentioned the possibility that the woman was a “stalker cheater” and not actually Alex’s real wife.

“So first, I’d like to suggest there’s a small but non-zero chance it wasn’t his wife, which would make things even weirder,” commented one user.

“That’s what I suspected too: this girl might not be his wife, but might be a jealous psychopath who thinks Alex is her husband,” replied another.

In an update, u/aita-gym-trainer said many mentioned the “possibility of a stalker cheater” and that she was “shivering.”

“Never thought of that! I’ll call the gym first because if it’s a stalker-imposter she can harass other people too,” the update reads. “Since I don’t have Alex’s private number, I’ll ask the gym to give him a call. Then I’ll talk to him when I see him next week!”

Wife and personal trainer
One woman claimed in a now viral Reddit post that her personal trainer’s wife approached her at the gym and told her to find another trainer. The internet came to the rescue of the Redditor, telling her not to fire her personal trainer just because his wife was “insecure.”
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