Internet Supports Son Who Says Parents Want Him To Come Back To Save Face In Viral Post
A post has gone viral after an 18-year-old shared that his parents want him to move back in with them after he was expected to move immediately after his 18th birthday.
Redditor u/Independent-Boot-789 wrote about the situation, and the events leading up to it, on the “Am I The A**hole” subreddit in a post that has been voted over 11,000 times.
To kick off the post, the young man provided context on what his experience was like growing up.
“Mine [18M] parents intended to be a childfree couple, but because of religious beliefs, they held me even if I was an unwanted pregnancy,” he wrote. “I don’t remember exactly when I was told, but I always knew I was expected to to move as soon as I turned 18.”
He said that although his parents were emotionally distant, they did not insult him and cared for him financially.
Earlier this month news week reported on another viral post in which a child shared about their family dynamics and the repercussions they faced after they wanted to move.
A 20-year-old woman posted to Reddit to share her experience, saying she has done most of the “child-raising” for all five of her younger siblings.
When her mother found out she was planning to move, she told her she couldn’t because she “can’t handle it alone.” She then called her daughter selfish.
Before you/Independent-Boot-789, he said that knowing he was expected to leave, he had made plans to live in an apartment with four other people. But after a friend’s family learned about his situation, they offered him their furnished basement for just $150 a month.
“So I jumped at the chance, even though I know it’s a sad offer,” he wrote. “It is pertinent that both his family and mine are of Indian descent.”
He wrote that his parents invited him to dinner shortly after he moved. During dinner, his parents asked him to move back in, which he “politely” refused. He said his mother started to cry after he gave them his answer and left the room.
“[M]y father started berating me and saying that their friends exclude them because of the ‘rumor’ [sic] that they kicked me out and had another desi family take me in,” he wrote.
“I said that’s exactly what happened, and it’s not my job to save them from the consequences of their actions and decisions,” the Redditor said.
Commentators were quick to back the man, saying his parents were only trying to clean up their image rather than really want their son back.
“NTA!! Sounds like their social status is more important [than] how their kid is feeling and since you’re all not even that tight from that noise it’s much better for you to be gone, you can probably finally breathe!” one commenter wrote.
“NTA. Your parents did exactly what their friends said they did, and moving back in doesn’t really change that,” added another person. “And I don’t think it’ll really help them save face either — your parents’ friends won’t magically forget they kicked you out when you move back in!”
news week contacted u/Independent-Boot-789 for comment.