Internet Supports Groom Who Doesn’t Want To Marry Fiancé’s Sister After ‘Harassing’ Him

A man caught the attention of the internet when he admitted in a now viral post that he doesn’t want his fiancé’s sister at his wedding.

The man posted on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” forum on Monday under the username u/aita_weddingtroubles, explaining that his fiancée’s sister at one point lived with the couple while she was attending college. During this time, however, she “slandered” him.

“She would say things like ‘you would look good’ or ‘wish I could find someone like you,'” the man wrote in the post, which has received more than 6,000 votes.

“During the few months, it revealed [sic] to her who ‘accidentally’ walks into my shower, spills things on me so I have to change, tell her to be in my fiancé’s shoes, and constantly make comments about my body,” he continued.

Feeling “uncomfortable”, he brought the comments to his fiancée’s attention, but she dismissed her sister’s comments as nothing more than a “joke”.

So when the man’s fiancée announced she wanted her sister to serve as her bridesmaid, he pushed back.

“I told her everything I brought up before, saying that her sister might try to ruin the wedding because of this huge crush [if that’s even the right word] she has on me,” he said.

“I also said I might be okay with her being involved in the wedding in some other way, but I don’t feel comfortable with her being so involved and so close to both of us,” he continued.

Despite his feelings about this, his fiancée held her down. In response, the man asked her, “What if you feel uncomfortable around my brother? [best man]? Don’t you wish he wasn’t at the wedding party?”

She said ‘yes’ and added that she doesn’t like his brother. The man was quick to point out the double standards, telling Reddit, “My brother can be kicked out of the wedding just because my fiancé doesn’t like him, while her sister can’t be kicked out because she’s practically sexually harassing me.”

According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC), 43 percent of men and 81 percent of women across the country have experienced “some form of sexual harassment and/or assault in their lives.”

Speaking to HuffPost in 2019, NSVRC’s Laura Palumbo reminded her partners to support each other in discussing sexual harassment and not to downplay their experiences.

“You may think you’re trying to help by saying, ‘I’m sure he didn’t mean it that way,’ but instead they start to question their perceptions or feel stupid for sharing. It’s better to be supportive saying things like ‘I believe you’ or ‘you didn’t do anything wrong and I’m here for you,'” she said.

Many Redditors believed that u/aita_weddingtroubles was justified in not wanting his fiancé’s sister at his wedding. Some even argued that he should not marry someone who considers sexual harassment “no problem”.

“NEW [not the a**hole], and I stick with this OP [original poster]. Your fiancé chooses someone who has sexually harassed you, instead of you, on your own wedding day! It’s not “practical,” she said. Her behavior was repeated, predatory and frankly disgusting,” said u/sugarxb0nes.

“I’d like you to really think about this, why would you want to marry someone who thinks her sister is sexually harassing you, that’s not a problem,” you/Automaticaving offered.

Redditor u/Alarmed-Hamster-4047 added: “This is a red flag that your feelings aren’t as important to her as her own. You have COMPLETELY valid reasons for not wanting the sister at the wedding, and you engaged her “letting go is terrible. You may want to rethink this whole marriage when your feelings are brushed aside and your boundaries are pushed all the time.”

news week contacted u/aita_weddingtroubles for comment.

A man caught the attention of the internet when he admitted in a now viral post that he doesn’t want his fiancé’s sister at his wedding. The groom-to-be posted that he was being “bullied” by the sister and that he was not comfortable with her joining the wedding party.

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