The internet has come out in defense of a 16-year-old girl who claimed in a now viral post that she was recently called a “gold digger”.
Posting on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” forum on Thursday under the username u/No-Strawberry-6721, the girl explained that the date in question is the “first date of [her] to live.”
So far, the post has received over 6,700 votes and over 700 comments.
At the beginning of her post, the teen said her date – a 17-year-old man – took her to a “posh restaurant” that was quite expensive.
Despite telling him she wasn’t hungry, her date ordered several “expensive” dishes and insisted that she try them all. So, acting on the assumption that he wouldn’t ask her to pay for those dishes, she did.
However, when the check arrived, the girl’s date asked her to split the bill. She agreed and handed over all the money she had on her, just enough to cover her share of the meal. But this upset her date, who claimed the bill should have been split fairly because she “tasted” some of his food.
In his anger, 17-year-old called u/No-Strawberry-6721 a “gold digger.”
“I wouldn’t have had a problem if he had paid for it” [in] full and told me to treat him on the second date,” she wrote. “But he chose to call me [a] gold digger.”
Yet she wanted to know: was she wrong?
While there are no hard and fast rules about who should pay what on a first date, some experts recommend at least discussing the topic during the date.
“If you want to do the check, it’s best to gauge what the other person thinks first,” suggested. Harvard Business Review. “For example, you could say, ‘How should we handle the bill?’ Likewise, if you want to split it, you can suggest, ‘Do you mind if we split this in the middle?'”
Etiquette, of course, doesn’t require restaurant bills to be shared equally. In conversation with forbes, Money Under 30 founder David Weliver argued that if there is a significant difference in the cost of both parties’ meals, “choosing between an evenly split or an itemized bill is a no-brainer.”
“I think it’s totally inconvenient, but there’s no getting around it: you have to be confident to say, ‘I’m on a budget, I’m trying to save money, I specifically ordered these things’ [to save money]. Can we take that into account?'” Weliver told the publication.
“If you’re going to argue about $2, maybe I’ll admit,” he added. “If you have something significantly cheaper, stand up for yourself, at any age.”
The majority of Redditors agreed with Weliver’s mindset, assuring u/No-Strawberry-6721 that she wasn’t wrong to pay her share of the dinner bill alone.
“It’s kind of hilarious that a 17-year-old would think ‘gold diggers’ are after him… ‘yes, I want to spend all your allowance,'” wrote u/SilliusSoddus. “NTA” [not the a**hole] but also big warning signs about his personality in general and what he thinks ‘reasonable’ means.”
More than 15,000 people voted in agreement with u/SilliusSoddus’ comment.
“Please don’t go on a second date. Run……. run for the hills. Throw red flags everywhere on a first date. Not a good first impression and it won’t get any better,” u/Princess_Mia-11 said.
“NTA. Choosing an expensive restaurant, ordering a bunch of expensive stuff, and then asking your dining partner to split the bill is actually CRAZY rude. Splitting the bill is common, but it’s generally accepted that if you go half, you that doesn’t expect one party to cover a disproportionate amount of the account,” u/mrlesterkanopf offered.
Redditor u/Complicated_Disaster added: “What a entitled boy. If he wants to go to an expensive place, he has to check first if you can afford it, or pay for it yourself. NEXT!”