Internet praises woman for refusing to pay estranged father’s medical bills

The internet is siding with the woman who refused to pay her estranged father’s medical bills after sharing the story in a now viral Reddit post Monday.

Posted by user HumanWaste000 on the popular r/AmITheA**hole subreddit, the story now has over 13,000 upvotes and thousands of comments.

In the post, the Redditor explained: “My parents divorced when I was about 10 years old and I had no contact with my father after a year because he made the choice to prioritize his new family, stepson and children with his new wife about my brother and I. No visitors after he remarried. When we called to ask when he would visit us, he just said he was busy.”

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A file photo of a woman receiving a message on her phone, left, and a photo of a medical bill, right. The internet sided with a woman who refuses to pay her estranged father’s medical bills.
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The poster explained that they were very close before the divorce: “I was literally daddy’s little girl. His beloved golden child. No joke. I thought my father was the best and wanted to marry a man like him when I was growing up. So The fact that he just dropped my brother and me off has left a deep wound in my heart that I will never forgive him.

“He never paid alimony, so my mother had to support my brother and I as a single parent. She decided not to sue him because she never wanted anything to do with him again.”

According to the World Population Review, about 50 percent of married couples in the US will divorce, making it the sixth highest divorce rate in the world.

Some 18 years later, the Redditor said her mother’s love and care meant that she and her brother moved on with their lives as adults.

But that morning, the poster had received a Facebook message from her stepbrother: “He wanted to talk to me about ‘our’ father and I was confused at first and then remembered that yes, I had someone like that in my life.

“He told me that our father has a medical condition and that the treatment is very expensive and that it would be nice if we could pay his bills and also that my father wanted to speak to my brother and me. I told him that that man has the rights to being my father when he decided not to have any contact with us and that his medical bills are none of my concern.”

The poster told her stepbrother that any years of unpaid child support could be used to cover his medical expenses. When she later spoke to her mother, she told her that she had a right to be angry, but that he is still her father and that she could help them a little.

“I said, ‘For God’s sake, I’m not going to pay his bills. He’s got his kids to pay for them, so let’s take care of it. He’s made his bed, now let him sleep on it.'”

Using data from 2000 to 2008, the Center for the Demography of Health and Aging at the University of Wisconsin-Madison examined the implications of parental divorce on estranged fathers and their relationships with adult children, especially when there has been a new relationship since the parting .

The study found that middle-to-late-age fathers have less contact with their adult children from a previous union than divorced fathers who remain single. The research found that fathers prioritize their new partner over their relationship with their children, suggesting that fathers consciously or unconsciously choose to do so when entering a new relationship.

Redditors overwhelmingly sided with the poster, with one commenter writing, “Your father threw you out completely and as far as you know, in 18 years he has never made an attempt to see or talk to you? Hell no .”

“He wrote himself out of your life 19 years ago. He can’t write himself back just because he needs money,” said another commenter.

“Even if he had been a good father, you still really wouldn’t owe him any financial support,” wrote another Redditor: “Especially in this case, I think it’s entirely up to you how much you want to help him or not. made his choice when you were a child, and now you can make yours as an adult.’

news week has contacted HumanWast000 for comment.

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