Internet criticizes man who canceled marriage, gave date and location to his child

A former fiancé has sparked outrage online after she claimed her ex-fiancé gave their canceled wedding date and venue to his daughter and warned her in an email.

The woman shared her alleged situation in a popular post on the forum Mumsnet. When she explained her story, the internet became furious with her former partner, who she said had called off the wedding in order to pass on all plans to his betrothed daughter.

In the post, she wrote that she would marry her partner of six in May, but his “persistent reluctance to commit” led to it being called off after he refused to move in together or pool their finances.

“I had booked my dress, the venue, the flowers, everything, but he was constantly reluctant to buy his suit, arrange the wedding announcement, etc. and kept making excuses like ‘I’ll do it next week,'” she wrote. “It feels like he wanted a wedding but not a wedding? Or was he planning to cancel it and lie to me about what he wanted from me.”

After canceling the wedding, the mother of four claimed she received an email three weeks later saying he was now arranging for his daughter to use their wedding date, location and flowers.

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Stock image of a crying bride. An alleged bride-to-be shared online that her fiancé had given their plans to his daughter.
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“I feel broken and humiliated, I can’t stop crying. I feel hurt and betrayed, lied to and used and I can’t believe how we can do this to me. His last sentence in his email reads ‘Anyway case something good’ will come out of it all.’ I can’t bear the thought that he would use my wedding day to celebrate this now with his daughter and family, I am in irreparable pain,” she wrote.

The anonymous woman’s desperation at handing over her wedding plans comes as no surprise: the estimated time spent planning a wedding without a planner is between 200 and 300 hours.

Wedding planner Amy Nichols told that based on an average engagement length of 10 to 18 months, married couples spend the equivalent of eight to 12 full days planning a wedding. In 2020, the average cost of a wedding per Wedding Wire was also $28,000, adding to the blow.

“He paid for the venue with my dad and I paid for all seller deposits, probably in the neighborhood of £1500. When it got canceled I called all sellers to cancel only to find out he had them after me called, not to cancel, but to use them for his daughter instead, same date, place, different couple,” the Mumsnet poster added.

Respondents to the online post reacted with shock and anger at the woman’s former fiancé, with one user writing: “That’s one of the worst things I’ve read here. He doesn’t think you two are still together, right? YOU think so neither, right?”

“Block him and get on with your life, find someone who will marry you and get excited at the thought of being your husband,” suggested another. “He’s not the man for you, as much as it hurts now.”

One user suggested their perfect reaction to the news, advising the woman, “That’s great. Can you transfer the £1,500 back to my account.”

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Stock image of a woman receiving an email. The woman claimed to have received the news via hard email.
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“If he thinks it’s not lost, you should get your money back. It also shows that he had no emotional connection to it and that you were right to leave him,” they added.

“Let yourself grieve for what you thought you had and then be proud of yourself for not standing up for it when it became clear he was not what he claimed to be.”

Although there are few, one user has balanced the situation from the male’s potential perspective. “Shame on him for letting your own wedding plans progress so far,” they wrote.

“But I think it’s reasonable not to want to get married if both parties have kids at home etc. I won’t pool my assets and finances with someone who has more kids than me.

‘Maybe he thought this was the best way not to lose the deposit fees etc.? I sincerely hope he pays you back everything you paid for.’

The anonymous woman concluded that she has not spoken to her former fiancé since receiving the email and “has no intention of doing the rest of my life”.


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