The internet is protesting a man who took his niece on vacation, not his daughter.
Posted on Reddit’s popular “AmITeA**hole forum, using the account u/throwaway63618293, a man shared his story and let the “AITA” community decide whether he should be considered the bastard in his situation. The post has over 8,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.
The Redditor has a 14-year-old daughter he calls “Wendy” who lives with his ex-wife far from his hometown and has custody of them. He only sees his daughter once a month. His 15-year-old niece, “Claire”, lives with him as he has raised her since she was a child due to the death of her parents. He writes that he is closer to Claire than Wendy since Claire lives with him. He explained that Wendy and Claire don’t get along.
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“A while ago I got a bonus at work and I decided to go on a trip, but I couldn’t afford to take both girls with me and the girls don’t get along either (which is usually Claire’s fault, I admit) so no one would have fun if I took them both so I had to pick one and since Wendy can go with her mom if she wants to I’ve decided it’s only fair if I take Claire,” said he.
When they returned from the trip, Wendy was angry with her father, claiming he didn’t take her on vacation and “prefers his niece over her.”
“I raised Claire and I consider her my daughter so I don’t think I did anything wrong. However, my ex calls me an AH and says I always prefer Claire, but that’s not true,” ended he his message.
The “AITA” followers were quick to comment,
“YTA,” wrote u/dream_bean_94 in the top commentary with 12,000 votes, “If they are both in your care, you should treat them as equally as possible. Should have taken both or neither. Or plan a similar trip to take your daughter separate.”
“YTA. Why did you have to travel? Nobody forced you. You could have made the trip alone or used the money to do something fun with both of your girls. You really let this relationship fester,” u/Timely_Excuse2194 said.
U/Unit-00 wrote in part, “YTA, your daughter feels like you replaced her, and you did.”
“YTA if you can’t afford to take both, then don’t go at all. You’re clearly showing favoritism,” u/Geeklover1030 said.